For happy couples, February 14th is a day to celebrate love, romance, and each other. If you’re recently divorced, however, Valentine’s Day can be an unwelcome reminder of your past relationship.
If you’re struggling to cope with your first (or subsequent) Valentine’s Day after your split, you’re not alone. It’s normal to feel bitter, resentful, sad, or lonely on this wintery Hallmark holiday if you don’t have that picture-perfect romantic relationship in your life.
Here are some tips on how you can face Valentine’s Day head-on and overcome any negative emotions you might be feeling on February 14th:
If you’re feeling down this Valentine’s Day, take some time to focus on you. Pamper yourself with a spa day or a massage. Buy yourself that new gadget or that pair of shoes you’ve been eyeing. Treat yourself to an upscale dinner or cook yourself an expensive steak. Don’t feel bad about indulging today – you deserve it.
Spend the day doing what you love
Think about all the things that bring you joy – then pick one (or many) and do it! Whether your hobby is knitting, swimming, painting, or fixing things around the house, devote most of your day to enjoying it. Even if your favorite pastime is binge-watching Netflix on your comfy couch, indulge yourself and don’t feel bad about spending the day doing what you love.
Avoid social media
Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter are sure to be swarming with posts about Valentine’s Day, so protect yourself from getting lost in others’ photos and posts by avoiding the apps or deleting them temporarily. Seeing others talk about their relationships will probably only make you feel worse, so take a social media hiatus for your own mental health.
Exercising releases endorphins that tell your brain to reduce your perception of pain and boost positive feelings that can improve your mood and how you feel physically. So if you’re feeling bummed on Valentine’s Day, get out there and go for a hike, take a long walk, hit the batting cages, or sign up for a spin class. Anything that gets you moving is sure to make you feel better and improve your outlook on the day.
Celebrate the other forms of love in your life
Romantic love is only one form of love – and who said you can’t celebrate all the other kinds of love on Valentine’s Day? Instead of dwelling on your romantic relationships (or lack thereof), focus on the love you feel for your family, your friends, or even your pet. Spend the day with someone you love platonically.
Goldweber Epstein LLP Is Here for You
If your relationship is on the rocks this Valentine’s Day and it’s time to close this chapter of life, our divorce attorneys are here to help. Goldweber Epstein LLP is dedicated to representing clients in divorce and other family law cases.
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