While the holidays are spent being surrounded by loved ones, divorce can put a damper on the holiday cheer. Significant losses such as divorce can make going through the season quite difficult, especially for the children. On top of dealing with the loss of the family unit, you must also manage seasonal demands such as holiday shopping, parties and events, and other celebrations. However, it is possible to overcome the emotional obstacles of divorce to keep the holiday spirit alive for yourself and your kids.
Here are several steps you can take to survive the holidays after divorce:
- Formulate a plan with your ex-spouse – While talking to your ex-spouse may be the last thing on your mind, the truth is that the two of you will forever be parents to your children, so you must get used to working together to raise them. Have your holiday schedule made in advance to avoid any misunderstandings when it comes to visitation. If you are having issues coming up with a plan, make sure you keep the conflict away from the kids.
- Be there for your children – Divorce can make you feel depressed enough to isolate yourself from the world; however, your kids need you now more than ever. Be honest about the changes that are happening to your children and allow them to express their feelings openly. Simply being there physically and emotionally can help your kids get through the holidays.
- Surround yourself with loved ones – Just like how your children rely on you for care and advice, having a support system of friends and family you can depend on can provide significant help. Your loved ones can provide you with a safe place to feel loved, be nurtured, and even have fun.
- Create new traditions – Not only are some holiday traditions not possible to perform because of the divorce, attempting to continue them can trigger negative emotions. With help from your kids, take this opportunity to do something different compared to season’s past.
- Take a trip – If you don’t have the kids for the holidays, avoid spending time alone at home by either going on a road trip to visit distant family members or book a vacation to an exotic location to avoid having to spend the holidays in a place which reminds you of the life you once knew. Little adventure and escape can do plenty of good.
- Take care of yourself – Due to the emotional distress from divorce, it can be easy to drink the pain away or overeat during the season. Instead, you should get plenty of sleep, stick with a healthy diet, and even start a workout routine to stay physically fit. When it comes to taking care of your mental health, indulge in things you enjoy.
- Use this time as a starting point for your new life – Since a new year is around the corner, taking steps to keep the holiday spirit alive can lead to positive change and empowerment. It is possible that you can come out of the holidays physically and emotionally stronger than ever before.